Black Women are just Fat Bitches???

Ok, so how many of you were caught off guard or surprised when you saw the name of my blog??  I bet not many of you.  Why?  Because it seems that "Black Woman" and "Bitch" are synonymous.  I was recently web surfing and trying to stay abreast of the USA situations and what do I find???  This bullshit.  "FIRST LADY EATS RIBS".  How racist can a headline be.  Are you effing kidding me?  This is what the news headlines are going on about now???

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Michelle, who I think is absolutely gorgeous and just a stand up black woman all together, is being targeted by so many different groups not only because of how she looks, but because of the awesome things she is trying to implement, like healthy food choices in schools and USA in general.  You can find this BULLSHIT ARTICLE HERE.  And just look at the comments... Disgusting.  I don't recall them making these kinds of slanderous statements about Laura or Hilary and neither of them are tiny.  So not only is she portrayed as being fat and glutinous, but she is also seen as being rude and bitchy like the rest of US BLACK WOMEN!

I gotta say that I am more than a little disgusted here, but at the same time, we havent always portrayed ourselves in the best possible light, and yes I include myself in "we".  I too have suffered from being a raging bitch first to protect myself in my environment, then as a defense mechanism, until ultimately it was a habit that I had to break with a vengeance, not excuses, but truth.  And then there are things like this that definitely don't help our case.

I mean really??  All of that.  On one hand she is "handling her business" but as the reformed bitch, Wendy Williams says, at a certain point its about getting those bees with honey and not vinegar.  So back to my original point.  If black women aren't fat, we are bitches, and as one of my friends boyfriends said about me, we also can't keep a man and we lose them to white women (which is funny because I've had mine longer than almost all my friends, both white and black, have had theirs...hmmm food for thought sir).  Is this stereotype so blindingly in the forefront of our society that people don't notice a contradiction to the rule when they see it?  Have we portrayed such negative views of ourselves in life and media that we will never crawl out of this black hole of bitchness?  I mean, if the gorgeous and talented Mrs. Obama can be treated so badly by the media, both white and sadly black as well, are we doomed to forever be labeled as "ANGRY BLACK WOMAN"?  These questions are not rhetorical.  Shit, I'm NOT angry haha! And as I become more comfortable with myself and in my skin, I have begun to notice that a lot of the women I know aren't angry either.  So now I ask where do we go from here?

So what do you think?  Are we doomed to this title forever?  Inquiring minds want to know.

Signed,
Reformed Bitch

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