::Disclaimer:: DO NOT READ THIS IF YOUR INTELLIGENCE IS QUESTIONABLE AS YOU WILL BE LOST!
Lately I have been contemplating some serious philosophical shit. In my head it makes sense, but on paper....hmmmmm lets see. Reality by definition is "the state of things as they actually are", however, it also encompasses what is real and everything that is. Whether you can observe it or comprehend it, reality is that all encompassing state of being. Seems to makes sense right. Then you have the IQ of a small apple. There is nothing sensible about the definition of reality. Let me divulge into "reality" as it is.
The definition "state of things as they are" leaves out a very essential aspect of the human condition; experience. Some people believe that reality itself is consistent regardless of the individual experience and that its perception that varies. I believe that your perception is your reality. One can even go as far as to take it back to the age old battle of NATURE vs NURTURE. Your perception of life changes depending on your genetics (Nature) and your environment (Nurture) thereby becoming your REALITY...*signal corny tadaaaaaa sound*
Now...here comes the million dollar question: Why do we give a fuck? Well let me tell you why you should give me your fucks on this (or dont, either way, either way). We spend our entire lives believing that our reality is the RIGHT reality and everyone else is wrong. BOOM bitches. Therein lives the problem. We are creatures of habit and those habits are not easily broken, especially when we have been natured and nurtured up to believing our own reality is the only one that should exist. Think about it. Your religion is "right" and everyone else is "wrong". Your view on raising children is "right" and everyone else is "wrong". I could go on and on.... but what's most important to me right now...... your view on relationship normality is "right" and his is "wrong".... *sigh and cue a ha moment.... 'taste the soup....wheres the spoon....a ha'*
Reality, perception, fact, truth. These are all relative to the individual which is not in itself the problem. The problem comes in when we approach situations with blinders on and care not to understand someone elses reality. Philosophically, these 4 words (among others) plague the intelligent minds who understand their vagueness. My normality (those truths I believe everyone should know about a relationship, everyone being robert) is so damn different from his normality that its almost criminal to believe that we make this work. Subconsciously I have already realized what I am writing here today, but it took me a while to put all the piece together. In our society, television, friends, and family influence how we perceive our relationships. Think about it. If your man/woman has been doing things one way and you have been cool with it and then your friend says "uh uh I would be pissed off if my man/woman did that" you start thinking, damn... maybe he/she should be doing it this way.
My point: In life, especially in relationships, you must create your own reality, your own normality. There is no possible way that your significant other thinks and believes exactly as you do and the shouldn't. Because if they do, chances are you guys are brothers and sisters in which case fucking is wrong anyway. You cant expect to handle every situation the same and you cant be angry when they have been raised to think in a way that you weren't. Im not giving advice, Im talking to my own damn self. And stop listening to your friends all the damn time... Sometimes they are blinded by their love for you and that could end up fucking you up. Your reality is just that.....YOURS.
If you could not follow what I was saying please kindly take a knife and run the blade straight across your neck...we need to make sure imbeciles like you dont stick around long enough to reproduce. GOOD DAY