Ok, so how many of you were caught off guard or surprised when you saw the name of my blog?? I bet not many of you. Why? Because it seems that "Black Woman" and "Bitch" are synonymous. I was recently web surfing and trying to stay abreast of the USA situations and what do I find??? This bullshit. "FIRST LADY EATS RIBS". How racist can a headline be. Are you effing kidding me? This is what the news headlines are going on about now???
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I gotta say that I am more than a little disgusted here, but at the same time, we havent always portrayed ourselves in the best possible light, and yes I include myself in "we". I too have suffered from being a raging bitch first to protect myself in my environment, then as a defense mechanism, until ultimately it was a habit that I had to break with a vengeance, not excuses, but truth. And then there are things like this that definitely don't help our case.
I mean really?? All of that. On one hand she is "handling her business" but as the reformed bitch, Wendy Williams says, at a certain point its about getting those bees with honey and not vinegar. So back to my original point. If black women aren't fat, we are bitches, and as one of my friends boyfriends said about me, we also can't keep a man and we lose them to white women (which is funny because I've had mine longer than almost all my friends, both white and black, have had theirs...hmmm food for thought sir). Is this stereotype so blindingly in the forefront of our society that people don't notice a contradiction to the rule when they see it? Have we portrayed such negative views of ourselves in life and media that we will never crawl out of this black hole of bitchness? I mean, if the gorgeous and talented Mrs. Obama can be treated so badly by the media, both white and sadly black as well, are we doomed to forever be labeled as "ANGRY BLACK WOMAN"? These questions are not rhetorical. Shit, I'm NOT angry haha! And as I become more comfortable with myself and in my skin, I have begun to notice that a lot of the women I know aren't angry either. So now I ask where do we go from here?
So what do you think? Are we doomed to this title forever? Inquiring minds want to know.
Signed,
Reformed Bitch
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IDK...I think the answer is relative to the situation- sometimes one has to be b%%chy! It's the nature of the beast. I do agree however, that it can be difficult to turn it off when one is comfortable using it as a longtime defense mechanism. As FOX continues to demonstrate though, all you have to do is be of African descent, intelligent and wield some form of intelligence and positive influence on American society in order to be a target. There is no end to their obvious hatred and ridiculous tactics in an attempt to stay relevant. No need to be angry about this one- these folk at Fox are surreal...all one can do is shake one's head and tell those em-effers to watch our collective big, black glutious maximus (which they covet) as we sashay away...
ReplyDeleteHmmmmmm. I can honestly say there's a lot of truth to that statement. What I will also say is that the image of it will never go away, and black women who do not follow the stereotype of the "angry black woman" will unfortunately have to deal. The easiest way to do that is to find a way to make yourself stand out. Be loud, but be loud with your actions. Be strong, in the gym and in your family, be a bitch, but be a bitch to the problems, and not the people. That is all.
ReplyDeleteAs for the comments and awful cartoon about Ms. O, I think it's ridiculous and they don't have anything more important to write about. I agree too that if it was Hillary or Laura Bush there would not be such a fuss. I think it's just that the conservatives don't like any sort of government reforms so they oppose anything the dems propose. Yeah they are definitely spreading the fat Black woman stereotype because Ms. O is not fat.
ReplyDeleteHonestly, I can't see another positive solution other that self-improvement even if our behaviour is pretty good. The minority of us who are acting badly are ruining things for the rest of us. So those of us who want to get ahead and improve things will have to improve ourselves. We can't really change other people but we can change ourselves.
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